Always feel

Always feel so busy? Feel that not enough time each day, not enough sleep every day to do a lot of things waiting for you, if not, the world stopped turning. Really? not think that as long as is deserved? The purchase of consumer society has become a moral exemption clause, as long as, you can clear conscience. Because you bought this thing, so you can be destroyed at any time, discards it, without having to feel guilty. No one to waste and resource consumption seriously. Is there a purely private interest? The image of a cartoon collection, network magic to see the novel, the raising of a pet is very boring, revised plans ... ... these things to your work, family, the meaning of life that have not, but it can help you to relax, do not let you feel that every minute of life must be useful. How long did not play the game? We must understand that many of the great inventions of mankind are based on game-like curiosity, purely out of interest, only invented. Only to feel pleasure when you?that the waste originated from the nature of capitalism. In fact, human beings believe that consumerism is the best to the psychological treatment. Only non-stop buying, human will feel hard work is meaningful, will feel real in this world exists. You sure? An office of a 4A in the company of a man in a night after a sudden come up with an advertising phrase, and then you immediately have this strong interest in commodities, that it is virtually tailor-made for you. Not the same things at home can, however, after 10 years at the time? PC, MP3, mobile phones, these electronic products in the 3 months after the out of date. Clothing, jewelry may be able to maintain these. Looking at your range of things, they are created by the purpose is to eliminate as soon as possible. Your home does not have its own production from the East and West? If everyone to produce their own appliances, it would bankrupt the business community, of course, they will not let you do so. But you really have never done anything for their own thing?

Life of men‘s women

Woman's life, will encounter many men, however, care about you or you care about, not a few. A woman under life, encountered a few men, are your favorite, they, like your mother, your heart to love, to you, they would rather give their lives, these people, is your father , grandfather, grandfather. The second woman met a man, is your brother, they did not get married before your umbrella, the umbrella covered with this, no one to bully you, there is an umbrella to protect women, the most happiness. However, such drilling under the umbrella of another and you do not have the blood of women, which the umbrella on the tendency of that person, you can only hide behind the umbrella margin. The third woman met a man, is that you add music students, this situation most true, most pure. The ends of the earth they go, regardless of the status of the difference between how far, regardless of social pollution and more powerful, the opposite sex affection between the students and will never degenerate, he will do all their own ability to help you, as long as you speak, Therefore, we should cherish. Women met the fourth man, is your lover, the man, a mouthful of sweet talk, but one day, three times that you can think. The fifth woman met a man, is your husband, this man will no longer be as in love when, as rhetoric, but he hurts you, love you, understand you, he is the favorite after the first man that your people. Happy, he is more happy than you, you cry, he will get into your arms, a mouthful of the incoherent: "Do not Cry, Do not Cry." He is a person to accompany you for life. In his eyes, a woman will always be the children grow up, will always need care, a woman is his all, he did not want to let him become a part of everything, so that he would like to treasure their lives and treasure you. Woman, you may meet the ninth, the tenth man, but, remember, do not throw the watermelon, sesame seized, cherish love you a few people that you, love you, love is worth it, this is life, this is the reality, this is a sensible woman.

When we do not have the money

Do not know what to wear when Adi. Nike. Have forgotten when they began to use perfume. Lipstick. Previous cold milk dog now called grapes. The previous three-color cup is now missing. Why would you obsessed with things in check. Why you want a brand. And you will know at prada and Gucci. LV then the package will wear Armani clothes. Until the day you die. Finally a smile when you see people crying around you Then slowly back to think of their past. In memory of you. Will be full of these are not a brand. Brand. Brand. Will think of the year. When we did not have money However, our easy to wear clean clothes. Slightly wrinkled but clean shoes. Carrying a bag. May be encountered along the way of the Student Council. Campus will be the story of chatting. That old tree on campus. Student Council at the time talked about a sense of blush. Physical education will be cheering you on. In the art of graffiti on Freedom. Homework will be closed at the time Pretending to look casual inspection of her homework. Nothing more than a matter of fact, she single-handedly want to look at the beautiful words. And the fault-finding, she told. In fact, have a simple method. Door in the morning when the short-term stay. Then, there are a series of line did not loose shoelace. One rationale for the rationale for the wind was not disorderly hair. Arrogance of the background, leaving a panic. Quietly in the corridor extending on the body. Only in order to be able to see the heartbeat that allows you to stop the girls. However, when someone from your side after the time Raised his head and watch the distant landscape. Think of the cloud to the horizon like her. Year. When we do not have money. Every day is an illusion brought up after a day And carrying a big bag almost physical. With the hearts of man. Around the world in every corner. Year. We have no money. However, in many years. When we started to pay attention to people around LEVI `S they carry the. REEBOK schoolbag. Wear clothes G-STAR Found at Starbucks or Haagen Dazs. Weekends are not going to play but to go shopping. Clothes to get the first response is not suitable for But to see what brands are. To despise those who would wear clean but do not know what brand of Children. Messy hands are covered in the fall of Tintin fall. Begin to draw the minds of the target price. Then sent to the expensive perfume and a ring. At this age love to be commercialized. Of merchandise to be love. Children of men and women around the beginning of many men and women between the Child. This. It will be called. Sophisticated. If so seriously. I prefer to return to the year. When we did not when the money.

Be a wise woman

Women, it is necessary to believe that the warm, beautiful, trust, dignity, strength of these old words. Not to decadent, empty, confused, hurt others. Not to agree with those of the cool and alternative camouflage. They are nothing of the people do find an excuse for their laissez-faire. Are really at the heart of cool. You should have a strong heart. Have allowed the passage of time, will not yield to conviction. To make love to life. Youth so short, not to lament the old. We should ask ourselves from time to time, at their own why. Give ourselves a future vision and goals. Usually remember looking at the sky. Keep in mind when looking at the sky and see the foot. Men do not give the same opportunity to hurt you twice. Do not trust the oath bed. Do not value a virgin, but to maintain purity. Do not easily say "love." Want to protect themselves, do keep in mind. For some people, you do not have to cherish, but for their families, you are precious. Please, you know, baby, sad time and we have to go home, give me a call, with people around, said in his heart not to boring. You do not want to know the lack of love, there is at us. Parent Shun mind, but have their own ideas. Not to follow blindly, anything want to ask yourself how in the end. We should have shouted out ideas. Read philosophy, science, psychology, some of you think that the book boring. Know the basic rules of this world and common sense. Listen to good music. Optimistic about the movie and draw. Love of art, but not of their own art. Do not look down on working people. Shame not to labor. Land is not dirty,. Please respect the living conditions of those who seem not as good as your people, because it is the respect for themselves. Never to be compassionate for those at the bottom of people's livelihood. No matter how tired, on a bus seat to give the elderly and pregnant women. Were hurt when a friend, do not doubt Friendship, but beware of those who betrayed you. Forgive, but not forgotten. Some innocent child being kept on to maintain a number of Friends chivalrous love. Happiness want to open, want tough, it is necessary to warm. This character has nothing to do.

Happy blind

Some years ago, read the reports, the West of a city newspaper, collecting society for the "Who is the world's most well-being of the people" the answer to this subject. To contribute very enthusiastic response from all walks of life one after another. Organize an authoritative newspaper of the judging panel at the answer much in the selection and voting came to the conclusion that the three answers. Wide views of hard to tune because not uniform, but also retained the services of an alternative answer. In accordance with the size and authority of voters who vote, issued a "Who is the world's most well-being of the people" list. Remember that the order is more or less like this: First, give the case of a patient after successful surgery, the doctor saw patients. Two, just give the children bath, the embrace of the baby's mother with a smile. Three, on the beach to build a sandcastle of the naughty boy, looked at the results of their labor. The answer options are: writing a novel the author the last word. Message eyes, I very much doubt its authenticity. Is it possible? What people are not fabricated by the Bo people laugh prank, right? Some also fear and anger, at the depths of their hearts, are shocked and overwhelmed. Some may say that I did not see this message, ah, there is nothing wrong? Furthermore, this is most people's understanding of happiness, not with ulterior motives or demagogy ah! Yes yes, I understand that fear to the hearts still. When I sort out his thoughts in detail, they would understand their own reaction time, depth of bone marrow is a tragedy. Happy that I am a blind.

Man you do not touch my

Even if you knew him a long time, but now he is my man, so please do not call something of nothing, made him give information that you feel bad, let you chat with him ... ...
Even if separated from you very close, but now he is my man, so do not always find him to dinner and eat at a time to give him a joke ... ... you say he is my man, his jokes, only to me ... ...
Even if the number of outstanding long him how handsome, but he is my man now, therefore, do not keep him in the space covered with photos, each has an ambiguous tag ... ... he is my Man , another woman could not ambiguous ... ...
even if you once had together, there is a lot of memory, but you must understand that it is only memory, the so-called back memory is the memory, to understand ... ... not to mention cutting my men Say have forgotten ... ...
I only remember the Man bit by bit between us ... ... Even if my man, he no longer outstanding and then gently re-handsome demeanor, he is my man ... ... Remember, my man, do not touch ... ...

Feel Happy

Happy about, before there is a legend of the Bluebird. Hidden in a forest with only one man brought the Bluebird happy, so there are doing a lot of people go looking for it all. Then one day, a tired man finally caught in a stream and then rest on the laurels of its access to the dreamland, did not want to wake up only after the bird was changing color, has become a common bird, and that person will stop breathing and therefore die. Can be seen in terms of well-being of people is often elusive, as only the legendary Bluebird. However, not everyone is giving up its pursuit. People more and more emphasis on the pursuit of money and the possession of external objects, they are more psychological stored are only specific birds. It does not know that the pure are not happy. Have you not seen that life is often a dilemma that some people at my dilemma? Sad there is ugly ugly, pretty and beautiful worry; money when there is no money troubles at the time, money and money at the time when the gloom; vegetables but try to go to Game, only appetite Pacific; spent a long time high-rise buildings are boring boredom and longing for farmers to appreciate the small courtyard Roman rural scenery ... .... Roland says, a happy person or not, and never won or lost based on what can only feel what is their own, are happy with the sweat and tears, only the bird, it does not enjoy the noisy vanity, usually comes at a bleak Medium. Adversity in the eyes of a soulmate, a friend of a warm note, QQ in a lovely face, a kind of touching Parent ... ... may be some people, others are happy to see him, but he does not feel happy, other people look away from him Happy very far himself happy when they met. Can be seen in the happy love of the people can feel happy. Happy is a beautiful mood beautiful, it is everywhere, it is difficult to grasp in our hands. Happy are usually obscure, and very sparingly to the sprinkler Ganlin us. As long as you put it does not look too mysterious, too great, it will quietly into your house, you walked into the psychological. Let us in our daily lives in the flat, to feel absolutely sure of human life in the true well-being of your existence

never see you

The brace has separated, it is best not to accommodated afresh the blow of his activity also.
Love you and him is not that memorable, afresh to do? This afresh will alone accomplish the arena anybody unhappy.
You see his old, black life, afresh you animated that they larboard him. However, afterwards he said goodbye, you acutely for their adamant and guilt. This does not feel too comfortable, it is bigger not to accommodated again.
You re-met him and begin him completely, and you, but not smug. Let him see that afterwards you larboard him black life, the address of you can put where? Bigger not to accommodated again.
Forget the accomplished for some circumstances, you will anticipate of him occasionally, you may aswell wish to apperceive how he is now, not acceptable canicule bigger life. When you go to those places frequented by your past, your affection would jump, you will think: "I will accommodated him actuality at?" If this is the case, it is best not to accommodated afresh is the blow of his life.
You never see him again, and the admirable anamnesis of admiral of the intention, if we see him, the aftereffect is apparently not the same. Afore him is not that person, afore you a lot of adore his intelligence, but a alliance of this moment, alone to acquisition you, he did not progress.
If you anticipate you see him, you accept to not let him leave today, so you see, you not alone to acquisition that thing, I do not apperceive what time from the start, you accept absent on him that the activity you aboriginal not adulation him. And afresh aghast according anamnesis of their own destruction.
If one day, we accept to breach up, not to, not to, amuse do not let me see you at the blow of his life.

Never Marrieds'

If you've ever had your mother, or maybe an elderly aunt, utter the dreaded question, "So, are you ever going to get married?" you might be part of a hot new statistic.
So-called "never-marrieds" are one of the fastest-growing groups in America, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. Singles constitute more than 40 percent of the adult population, and 10 percent of all adults will nIt is not just women who are hearing the tick-tock either. After decades in which men had the statistics in their favor, the dating pool demographics have reversed. For those between the ages of 30 to 44, the number of men and women are even, and in some cases.
Men who are looking for younger mates may be headed for trouble. Men in their late 30s and early 40s will outnumber women five to 10 years younger by two to one, by 2010, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

two pigs

Before there is mountains, hills have two pigs, called a green, a naughty name. They take a walk in the mountains, green accidentally fell to the ground, sing a naughty moment: "Why are you always such a trouble girl ah!" Mischievous green eyes: "You know my trouble, ah, now known not too late! "green stand up angry at the white naughty! Sorry naughty Qingqing the block said: "The sister, do not angry, who blame the world is too small, but I do like you are!" Tone down if not, then pick up the naughty green road going down hill ... walked walked, so they came to a small forest, Green saw the article in front of the stream has to be naughty let her down, Green went to the water, wash a face, accidentally saw the fish in the water, so they ask : "fish ah fish, why you can swim in the water ah?" a mischievous, almost fainted: "so stupid, the fish could they go On the road, the sky." naughty watching Qingqing: "right ah! me stupid, not you smart, not too late now to know ah! "This is more and more heat under the big blue. Qingqing accidentally falling into the water, the water flow into a stream in. This fear of mischief, and hurriedly jumped into the water to save the green. After several hours search and rescue, naughty Disappointed watched the water, and burst into tears ... when it gets dark, the naughty or not speaking a word looked at the water surface, it seems that what is waiting ... ...

Estrogen, Dangerous

Women had been told for decades that estrogen taken with progestin would not only ease hot flashes and insomnia but help preserve bone strength，mental acuity and，most important，heart health. There's no question that HRT can ease the acute symptoms of menopause，and the claim about bone strength had held up to scrutiny. But after observing more than 16,000 women for roughly five years，researchers found conclusively that hormones raise the risk of heart attack，stroke，blood clots and breast cancer.
The announcement caused a near panic among the more than 13 million American women now on hormone-replacement therapy. Fortunately，the study didn't uncover huge，unimagined dangers to patients. But for millions of women juggling the pros and cons of long-term HRT，the new findings offer something virtually unprecedented，which is clarity. Even a small risk to individuals can have big consequences when applied to a large population.
Short-term use is a different story. The study didn't turn up unacceptable risks among womentreated for less than five years，and experts agree there is still no better treatment for the hot flashes，mood swings and insomnia that many women experience around the time of menopause.

Hawaii

　For most of us, Hawaii begins to weave her spell with some little glimmer of awareness. Golden beaches and golden people. Sun, sand, sea, and surf……And somewhere between the blue skies and the palm trees……we're hooked.
　　The Hawaiian Islands are one of the most beautiful places on earth. The weather is friendly. The temperature ranges from 60-90 degrees all year long. It's a little warmer in summer, and a little cooler in winter, but every day is a beach day for somebody.
　　There are no strangers in Paradise. Perhaps the most beautiful part of Hawaii is the genuine warmth of people. We call it the spirit of Aloha. It has allowed a melting pot of cultures from all over the world to find common groundand a new home, in this most gentle of places.

The beautiful island is about to make public

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Eating lemon skin pigmentation rescue

Lemon contains vitamin B1, vitamin B2, vitamin C and other nutrients, in addition to rich in organic acids, citric acid and highly alkaline, has a strong antioxidant to promote skin metabolism, anti-aging and inhibit pigmentation are very effective. Therefore, the consumption of lemon to us from aging and pigmented skin easily rescued.
1, to prevent pigmentation and restore the skin whitening Reactive oxygen species are strong oxidizing substances, will be able to kill bacteria. However, when activity of the human body when too much oxygen, normal cells will be harmed and genetic factors, have a cause stains. And ultraviolet radiation, intense exercise, excessive stress, insomnia Stay up will result in high levels of reactive oxygen species.
2, there is lemon, make life more fun
◎ Massage nails with lemon juice, can play a strong role fingernails.
◎ release tablets in a sandwich next to lemons, fresh sandwiches can be maintained.
◎ be dripping lemon juice on apple slices, apple prevents oxidation discoloration.
◎ touch white when black tea, black tea lemon juice to remove stains.
◎ ironing accidentally left behind when, coated with lemon juice to remove dry.

The cart before the horse

Lioness died, the body of lion lioness watching, without food or drink for several days. It subjects it said: "The Lion, the Lions go now that the post, let her rest in peace now!" A lion that is also right, for the lioness, held a grand funeral for the mother of well - Lions built a magnificent tomb. Since then, the total fine lion lioness want to walk next to the grave. One day, it found the graves of solitary lioness, is a bit ugly, so it lioness at the grave next to a lot of kinds of flowers. Not long after, the lion and lioness that the tomb next to the bad or something, it is thought, he has planted a lot of trees. Years have passed, trees grow lush,flowers opened, the highest honor at this beauty deeply intoxicated Lane. Suddenly, it was also felt that there is a regret found the graves of lioness destroy the perfect present. Therefore ordered to put the lion lioness graves were set aside in this beautiful place. In this way, the lion was finally the perfect. But it forgot to beautify this place was the original intention of the. In fact, people often make such mistakes. The formation of our home, are for people with loved ones together; from work, are beloved in order to allow more people to lead happy lives. However, many people at home more and more advanced hardware, the feelings are more and more light, and ultimately parted ways. The original smart people, who may not be the same as the highest honor in the wrong cart before the horse ah!

To spend time on spiritual

Friends took me to see a collector's collection, said to him the top collection of are things that are just to get a price of more than 10 million. We passed through a section of the alley, came to a modest apartment in front of my mind from wondering is, how can the top collection of antiques at such places? Collector to open the door, and three stainless steel continuous door open before entering the house. Interior lighting is very dark, and a few seconds, I only adapted to the interior of the light, then suddenly see the whole house was filled with antiques, many even have to walk carefully, in order to move sideways. Everywhere chinaware, bronze, tin, and have a lot of painting and calligraphy scrolls crowded to plug in, the owner managed to find with our sofa, the sofa is also buried in the rubble of the Antiquities, after some sorting out, we have to sit . Is spellbound, when a plate from the master side, but the plate is not loaded tea or coffee, but a jade. Since my friends brag about me to the owner is a connoisseur, though I strongly deny that, according to the field, the master only when I was a modest, could not wait to get him to give me the collection of "appreciation" of the. That being the case, I had no choice but to appreciate one by one, and tried to praise a piece of brown jade said at the time, I would also like to know: Why is not the end of tea out of it? Jade reading, we look to the master bedroom of the pottery and bronze, I found the master bedroom can be only a bed to go to, the rest of the roof from the ground, a airtight. Although these prices are more than tens of millions of bronze, with the reactor can not feel it has value. Then read some room, still the case, the most surprised me is that even the kitchen and toilet are piled antiques, hosts has long been open group. I told the owner of an antique, why did he choose to live in the alley, who are afraid of the coveted caused. Our life so short, some camps should also be the trouble; be persistent, there is bound; have shown that there must be any losses. If the time spent on our goods, there will be no time on the soul. If our desire to run for the day and night, they will lose their health consumption.

Symbols of Halloween

Halloween originated as a celebration connected with evil spirits. Witches flying on broomsticks with black cats, ghosts, goblins and skeletons have all evolved as symbols of Halloween. They are popular trick-or-treat costumes and decorations for greeting cards and windows. Black is one of the traditional Halloween colors, probably because Halloween festivals and traditions took place at night. In the weeks before October 31, Americans decorate windows of houses and schools with silhouettes of witches and black cats. Pumpkins are also a symbol of Halloween. The pumpkin is an orange-colored squash, and orange has become the other traditional Halloween color. Carving pumpkins into jack-o'lanterns is a Halloween custom also dating back to Ireland. A legend grew up about a man named Jack who was so stingy that he was not allowed into heaven when he died, because he was a miser. He couldn't enter hell either because he had played jokes on the devil. As a result, Jack had to walk the earth with his lantern until Judgment Day. The Irish people carved scary faces out of turnips, beets or potatoes representing "Jack of the Lantern," or Jack-o'lantern. When the Irish brought their customs to the United States, they carved faces on pumpkins because in the autumn they were more plentiful than turnips. Today jack-o'-lanterns in the windows of a house on Halloween night let costumed children know that there are goodies waiting if they knock and say "Trick or Treat!"

Sharapova Jumps to No. 1 in WTA Rankings

Sharapova awoke Monday to a buzz alarm from her ancestor saying, "Good morning, champion." The Russian boyhood had taken over the WTA Tour's No. 1 baronial from Lindsay Davenport.
"This is something I've dreamed of all my life," Sharapova said. "It's just an amazing actuality to be No. 1 in world. Topping it off, I am the aboriginal Russian. I'm so aflame that I could accomplish it."
Sharapova is the 15th amateur and the aboriginal Russian to be No. 1 aback the bout began its computer rankings in 1975. At 18, she's aswell the fifth youngest to authority the top spot, afterward Martina Hingis, Monica Seles, Tracy Austin and Steffi Graf.
The No. 1 baronial agency she'll acceptable be the top berry in the U.S. Open, which begins next Monday. The draw is Wednesday.
Sharapova knew 10 canicule ago that she'd jump a atom to No. 1 if this week's rankings were released. She could accept overtaken Davenport with a accomplishment at the JPMorgan Chase Open, but had to abjure afore the quarterfinals because of a artificial chest muscle.
She skipped endure weekend's Rogers Cup in Toronto because of the aforementioned injury. But Davenport didn't play the Rogers Cup, either, because of a lower aback injury, and she didn't accept abundant credibility to break advanced of Sharapova this week.
"The actuality you are No. 1, it just puts a smile on your face," said Sharapova, who got adulatory argument letters from accompany all over the apple forth with seven bouquets of flowers.
"It's an amazing achievement. That's all I absolutely can say."
Sharapova has fabricated a beauteous rise, aggressive from alfresco the top 100 to No. 1 in a little over two years. She won Wimbledon at 17 in 2004, and has won six titles in the endure 12 months.
Though Sharapova hasn't played aback abandoning from the JPMorgan Chase, she said she's traveling into the U.S. Open in acceptable appearance . She spent her abrupt time off in Los Angeles, accomplishing concrete analysis and practicing.
The abrasion isn't from overuse, either. Sharapova afresh apparent that she'd developed addition inch - she's now 6-foot-2 - aback March, and the blow of her physique is communicable up.
"I consistently say I anticipate things appear for a reason," she said. "The abrasion gave me some acceptable time to plan on my backbone and concrete form, which is good."

19 assist you greatly improve the criteria for effectiveness

1. Create a plan for each day - use the plan to organize your day, but don't be married tothe plan - remain flexible.
2. Keep a list of your priorities in view. Measure your to-dos and planned actions againstthem.
3. Ask of each new task before you: "Who is the best person to be doing this task?"
4. Ask specifically for what you want, including conditions of satisfaction, and timeframes.Don't expect people to read your mind.
5. Skip the morning news on TV. It's primarily negative. Skip the late night news on TV.Its even more negative than the morning news. Go to sleep earlier, read, or write a journal.
6. Start each day with 30-60 minutes of reading - business, educational or inspirational.
7. Refine and clarify your vision. Where are your actions taking your organization?
8. Whatever you are currently complaining about - stop it.
9. Use the 80/20 rule to your advantage.
10. Work on one item at a time.
11. Put your basic values into writing.
12. Put your goals (all of them) into writing.
13. Do your next day's planning at the end of the day.
14. Be networking conscious.
15. Establish a reading / learning program.
16. Ask the question, where is the strategic or competitive advantage?
17. Figure out what you are very good at doing - delegate or outsource the rest.
18. Analyze the cost/benefit of what you are doing. It may be more cost-effective todelegate or outsource.
19. Ask yourself, "Is what I am doing the highest value contribution I can make now?"If not, don't do it.

How to Mend a Broken Friendship

Growing up across the street from each other in Twin Falls, Idaho, Lisa Fry and Paula Turner never doubted their friendship would last forever. But after Fry married, moved to New York City and had a baby, her letters to Turner suddenly went unanswered. "Do you think I've somehow offended her?" Fry asked her husband.Turner, meanwhile, had convinced herself she was no longer important to Fry. "She's got a family now," she told herself. "We're just too different to be close like before."Finally, Fry summoned the courage to call her old friend. At first, the conversation was awkward, yet soon they both admitted that they missed each other. A month later, they got together and quickly fell into their old habit of laughing and sharing confidences."Thank goodness I finally took action," Fry says. "We both realized we were as important to each other as ever."There are good reasons to cherish our friendships. Some years ago a public-opinion research firm, Roper Starch Worldwide, asked 2007 people to identify one or two things that said the most about themselves. Friends far outranked homes, jobs, clothes and cars."A well-established friendship carries a long history of experience and interaction that defines who we are and keeps us connected," says Donald Pannen, executive officer of the Western Psychological Association. "It is a heritage we should protect."Ironically, says Brant R. Burleson, professor of communication at Purdue University in West Lafayette, Ind., "the better friends you are, the more likely you'll face conflicts." And the outcome can be precisely what you don't want--an end to the relationship.The good news is that most troubled friendships can be mended. Here's what experts suggest:Swallow your pride. It wasn't easy, but that's what Denise Moreland of Hickam Air Force Base in Hawaii did when a friendship turned sour. For nearly four months, Moreland, 45, had watched over Nora Huizenga's two young daughters, who were living with their father on the base, while Huizenga, 40, completed training as a dental hygienist in Nevada. "I felt honored to be asked to step in," Moreland says.When Huizenga returned at Christmas, Moreland recalls, "I had so much to tell her, but she never called." One daughter had a birthday party, but Moreland wasn't invited. "I felt like I'd been used," she says.At first, Moreland vowed to avoid Huizenga. Then she decided to swallow her pride and let her friend know how she felt. Huizenga admitted that she'd been so worried about being separated from her family that she'd been blind to what her friend had done to help her. Today she says, "I would never have figured out what happened if Denise hadn't called me on it."When a friend hurts you, your instinct is to protect yourself. But that makes it harder to patch up problems, explains William Wilmot, author of Relational Communication. "Most of us are relieved when differences are brought out in the open."Apologize when you're wrong--even if you've also been wronged. No one should allow himself to be emotionally abused by anyone. But over the course of a friendship, even the best people make mistakes. "A relationship can grind to a standstill if the offender refuses to make the first move at reconciliation," Wilmot explains. "Under these circumstances, it may be best if the wronged person takes the initiative and apologizes--for getting upset, for not understanding the friend's circumstances. When you apologize, give your friend the opportunity to admit that he'd screwed up."Experts agree that one of the worst things you can do when you're upset is to start a fight. "We don't think clearly when we're arguing," says Michael Lang, a professional mediator in Pittsburgh. Instead, says Lang, ask: "What's going on? This doesn't make sense."See things from your friend's point of view. Sociologist Rebecca Adams of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro and Rosemary Blieszner, professor of gerontology and family studies at the Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University in Blacksburg, interviewed 53 adults who each had many friendships lasting decades. "We were curious how these people managed to sustain strong friendships for so long," says Blieszner.Tolerance is key, the researchers learned. The subjects also didn't let problems get blown out of proportion. "It's surprising how often a dispute results from a simple misunderstanding," adds psychotherapist Anne Frenkel.Accept that friendships change. In the spring of 1996, Cindy Lawson, 34, of Chicago, and a close friend decided to co-host a friend's bridal shower. The two women agreed to share the work and the cost. Then the friend, an attorney, took a new, more demanding job. Total responsibility for the shower fell to Lawson.On the Saturday of the shower, Lawson did all the party decorating, then prepared dinner for 35 guests. Her co-host did not arrive from her office until shortly before the event. Later her friend complained about the cost.Lawson was furious. But deep down, she did not want to break off ties. The two women were in a book club together, had many common friends and enjoyed dinners out together with their husbands. Instead, Lawson decided to remain friends--but not close friends."Friendships change as our needs and lifestyles change," Wilmot observes. "It's healthy to have a host of friends and to sometimes shift the status of one or another."Making friends can sometimes seem easy, says Yager. The hard part is keeping the connections strong during the natural ups and downs that affect all relationships. Her suggestion: Consider friendship an honor and a gift, and worth the effort to treasure and nurture.

Point and Bet

Internet gambling's explosive growth has made it the Web's killer app. Now critics are trying to pull the plug.
Scores of visitors stream into the Barrymore Beach Club on the tiny Caribbean island of Antigua on a recent morning. But none of them swim in the warm water or sip tropical drinks on the white-sand beach. That's because they have come to Antigua via the Internet, drawn by one of the Web's most provocative diversions: online gambling.
ABOUT THE ONLY people actually in the hotel are a half-dozen bikini-clad women, toiling in guest rooms converted into tiny virtual casinos. As the dealers lean into Web cameras (each gets a monthly $50 "cleavage bonus") and flirt with bettors via instant messaging, a computer tracks the house's haul. Robert J. from the United States loses $475 on roulette in just seven bets, while Ricky L. of Hong Kong pockets $85 at baccarat. In a typical month, surfers plunk down $640,000. Because players make more bets per hour than they would at Caesar's Palace, they literally lose money to the house twice as fast, says Peter Kjaer, who runs the two-year-old site. "Of the two industries on the Internet that make money," Kjaer says, "this is the one I can tell my mother about."
Every week about 2 million players ante up at more than 1,800 virtual casinos, making Internet gambling one of the Web's fastest-growing killer apps. It's easy to understand why. Internet sex sites can only simulate the real thing, but online casinos are the real thing. Any hour of the day, from work, home or vacation, you can click a mouse and bet the house. But now the dizzying growth of online gambling-some $3.5 billion will be lost on Internet bets this year, about three times the revenue of porn sites-has triggered a sharp backlash that threatens to turn some of today's thriving online casinos into tomorrow's defunct eToys. In recent months most U.S. credit-card companies, and some Internet payment systems like PayPal, have responded to pressure from lawmakers by moving to block charges from online casinos. The House of Representatives earlier this month passed a bill making online gambling a federal crime (the bill has not yet come to a Senate vote). Perhaps the most chilling news to site operators: last week an American who ran an Internet sports-gambling site in Antigua started serving a 21-month jail sentence for violating a 1961 sports-gambling statute. "There's big trouble ahead," says Kjaer.
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Shutting down Internet wagering altogether may be as difficult as keeping a teenager from downloading MP3s. Several earlier attempts to pass federal legislation banning Internet gambling have stalled, generally because the bills can't reconcile opposition of online wagering with support for state lotteries and parimutuel betting like horse racing. And some credit-card companies, albeit inadvertently, are still processing these transactions. Just two weeks ago NEWSWEEK used a MasterCard issued by Citibank to deposit $100 at the DrHo888 site, where we quickly pocketed $50 in two winning roulette spins. The credit-card transaction was coded by DrHo as coming from a French catalog merchant. Citibank admits it was fooled. Says DrHo's Kjaer: "There's nothing illegal about it. We can code transactions however we want to."

Peeling Away Artifice For the Pure Original

Sarah came running in."Look what I found." Over the top of the paper I was reading came a crispy, crumbling long object that caused me to jump. It was a snake skin that had been shed by one of our many garden snakes.
"Isn't it beautiful?" said my wide-eyed seven-year-old.
I stared at the organic wrapper and thought to myself that it really wasn' t that beautiful, but I have learned never to appear nonchalant or jaded with children. Everything they see for the first time is elementary to their sense of beauty and creativity; they see only merit and excellence in the world until educated otherwise.
"Why does it do this?" Sarah asked.
Robert, ever the innocent comedian, said:"We have a naked snake in our garden!"
　I also try to customize every opportunity to teach my children that there is almost always something beyond the obvious; that there is something else going on besides what they see in front of them."Snakes shed their skin because they need to renew themselves," I explained. As is so often the case in my family, the original subject leads to another and another, until we are discussing something quite different.
　"Why do they need to renew themselves?" Sarah asked.
Robert quipped:" 'Cos they don't like who they are and they want to be someone else."
Sarah and I politely ignored her brother. I suddenly remembered an article on this page many years ago where the writer was expressing her concept of renewal. She used layers of paper over a wall to describe how we hide our original selves, and said that by peeling away those layers one by one, we see the underlying original beneath.
　"Snakes don' t peel off their skin when they feel like it." I explained. " It happens as a natural consequence of their growth."
"I see, Dad," said Sarah and jumped off my lap, grabbed the snakeskin, and ran off.
I hoped she would remember this. That often, in order to find our real selves underneath the layers of community and culture with which we cloak ourselves year after year, we need to start examining these layers. We need to gently peel some away, as we recognize them to be worthless, unnecessary, or flawed; or at best, store the discarded ones as mementoes of our promotion to a better vitality or spirit.

Relish the Moment

Tucked away in our subconsciousness is an idyllic vision. We see ourselves on a long trip that spans the continent. We are travelling by train. Out the windows, we drink in the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of children waving on a crossing, of cattle grazing on a distant hillside, of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, of mountains and rolling hillsides, of city skylines and village halls. But the uppermost in our minds is the final destination. On a certain day at a certain hour, we will pull into the station. Bands will be playing and flags waving. Once we reach there, so many wonderful dreams will come true and the pieces of our lives will be fit together like a completed jigsaw puzzle. How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the minutes loitering, waiting, waiting, waiting for the station. "When we reach the station, that will be it", we cry. "When I'm 18", "When I buy a new 450SL Mercedes Benz", "When I put my last kid through collage", "When I have paid off the mortgage", "When I get a promotion", "When I reach the age of the retirement, I shall live happily ever after." Sooner or later, we must realize that there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all. The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly outdistances us. "Relish the moment" is a good motto, especially when coupled withe the Psalm 118:24:"This is the day which the Lord hath made, we will rejoice and be glad in it." It isn't the burdens of today that drive men mad. It is the regrets over yesterday and the fear of tommorrow. Reget and fear are twin thieves who rob us of today. So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, climb more mountains, eat more icecreams, go barefoot more often, swim more rivers, watch more sunsets, laugh more and cry less. Life must be lived as we go along. Then the station will come soon enough.

Eyes can speak

Much meaning can be conveyed, clearly, with our eyes, so it is often said that eyes can speak.Do you have such kind of experience? In a bus you may look at stranger, but not too long. And if he is sensing that he is being stared at, he may feel uncomfortable.The same in daily life. If you are looked at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up and down, to see if there is anything wrong with you. If nothing goes wrong, you will feel angry toward other’s stare with you that way. Eyes do speak, right?Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and aggressive. But things are different when it comes to stare at the opposite sex. If a man glances at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to avert his gaze, his intentions are obvious, that is, he wishes to attract her attention, to make her understand that he is admiring her.However, the normal eye contact for two people engaged in conversation is that the speaker will only look at the listener from time to time, in order to make sure that the listener does pay attention to what the former is speaking, to tell him that he is attentive.If a speaker looks at you continuously when speaking, as if he tries to dominate you, you will feel disconcerted. A poor liar usually exposes himself by looking too long at the victim, since he believes in the false idea that to look straight in the eye is a sign of honest communication. Quite the contrary.In fact, continuous eye contact is confined to lovers only, who will enjoy looking at each other tenderly for a long time, to show affection that words cannot express.Evidently, eye contact should be done according to the relationship between two people and the specific situation.

The gift of Love

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I thought like a child; when I became and adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now we see in mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

A Box Full Of Kisses

Once upon a time, a man punished his 5-year-old daughter for using up the family's only roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight, and he became even more upset when on Christmas Eve, he saw that the child had pasted the gold paper so as to decorate a shoebox to put under the Christmas tree.Nevertheless, the next morning the little girl, filled with excitement, brought the gift box to her father and said, "This is for you, Daddy!"As he opened the box, the father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction.But when he opened it, he found it was empty and again his anger flared. "Don't you know, young lady,” he said harshly, “when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package!"The little girl looked up at him with tears rolling from her eyes and said: "Daddy, it's not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was all full."The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his precious little girl. He begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.An accident took the life of the child only a short time later. It is told that the father kept that little gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. Whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems he would open the box, take out an imaginary kiss, and remember the love of this beautiful child who had put it there.In a very real sense, each of us as human beings have been given an invisible golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and God.

The Apple Tree

A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy loved to come and lay around it every day. He climbed to the tree top, ate the apples, took a nap under the shadow... He loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him.
Time went by... the little boy had grown up and he no longer played around the tree every day. One day, the boy came back to the tree and he looked sad. “Come and play with me,” the tree asked the boy. “I am no longer a kid, I don’t play around trees anymore.” The boy replied, “I want toys. I need money to buy them.”“Sorry, but I don’t have money...but you can pick all my apples and sell them. So, you will have money.” The boy was so excited. He grabbed all the apples on the tree and left happily. The boy never came back after he picked the apples. The tree was sad.
One day, the boy returned and the tree was so excited. “Come and play with me,” the tree said. “I don’t have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me?”“Sorry, but I don’t have a house. But you can chop off my branches to build your house.” So the boy cut all the branches off the tree and left happily. The tree was glad to see him happy but the boy never came back since then. The tree was again lonely and sad.
One hot summer day, the boy returned and the tree was delighted. “Come and play with me!” the tree said. “I am sad and getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat?”“Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy.” So the boy cut the tree trunk to make a boat. He went sailing and never showed up for a long time. The tree was happy, but it was not true.
Finally, the boy returned after he left for so many years. “Sorry, my boy. But I don’t have anything for you anymore. No more apples for you...” the tree said.
“I don’t have teeth to bite,” the boy replied.
“No more trunk for you to climb on.”
“I am too old for that now,” the boy said.
“I really can’t give you anything... the only thing left is my dying roots,” the tree said with tears.
“I don’t need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years.” The boy replied.
“Good! Old tree roots is the best place to lean on and rest. Come, Come sit down with me and rest.” The boy sat down and the tree was glad and smiled with tears...
This is a story of everyone. The tree is our parent. When we were young, we loved to play with Mom and Dad... When we grown up, we left them, and only came to them when we need something or when we are in trouble. No matter what, parents will always be there and give everything they could to make you happy. You may think that the boy is cruel to the tree but that’s how all of us are treating our parents.
Take time out during the day for quiet time to listen to your inner voice. You may want to use your quiet time to meditate or pray. However you use this time, the key is to shut out all of the noise around you by focusing deep within yourself. Breathing deeply during quiet time will also help you focus. I know it’s hard to find quiet time during a particularly busy day, but it’s so important — even if it’s just 10 minutes a day and you have to sneak away to get it. Quiet time can really make a difference in your life. It enables you to hear God speaking to your heart reminding you of His perfect love for you.
Be honest with yourself by paying attention to your actions. Actions speak louder than words, and they always tell the truth. What do your actions say about you? If you say you love your job, but your actions say otherwise, which do you think is more true — your words or your actions? On the other hand, if you say you’re not good at a certain job, but your actions say otherwise, that’s also important. What do you do with this insight? You can use it to make more beneficial choices in your life. By being honest with yourself based on your previous actions, your actions moving forward will be based on truth instead of just what you tell yourself.
Despite what your subconscious may be telling you, you can have love with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.

Love and Time

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others, including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all constructed boats and left. Except for Love.
Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to hold out until the last possible moment.
When the island had almost sunk, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said,
"Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel. "Vanity, please help me!"
"I can't help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so Love asked, "Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh . . . Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"
Happiness passed by Love, too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her.
Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come, Love, I will take you." It was an elder. So blessed and overjoyed, Love even forgot to ask the elder where they were going. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Realizing how much was owed the elder,
Love asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who Helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?"
Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how valuable Love is."